East Penn Press

Saturday, February 22, 2020

Respectfully Yours: Ins and outs of who attends the party

Friday, February 21, 2020 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I am invited to a party and I am not sure I want to attend. Someone I don’t get along with might have been invited and I would feel very uncomfortable. Is it rude to ask the host of a party who else is coming before you decide whether you are going?

Dear Reader,

Asking this question before accepting an invitation is not considered polite. You will likely offend the host and give the impression that you need to be convinced the party is worth your time.

Respectfully Yours: Perfume triggers coworker’s allergies

Tuesday, February 18, 2020 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I am sensitive to scents, particularly perfume. The aroma triggers my allergies. I sit close to a coworker whose perfume is overpowering. How do I nicely tell someone her she’s wearing too much perfume?

Dear Reader,

Working in close quarters can sometimes be challenging.

For people who are sensitive to smells, overwhelming perfume can present an unhealthy work environment.

Respectfully Yours: Food delivery tip: There’s an app for that

Thursday, February 6, 2020 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I’ve just started using on-demand food delivery services. Should I tip the delivery driver and, if so, how much?

Dear Reader,

Tipping etiquette has largely remained unchanged even though the method of delivery has evolved.

Your delivery person goes to a restaurant near you and brings the food to your door, providing a convenient service that makes your life easier.

Respectfully Yours: Handle uncomfortable questions comfortably

Monday, February 3, 2020 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

When I’m talking to new people at social events, they just go directly to the point and ask personal questions like, “What what are my plans after college?” I don’t want to come across as impolite. What do you say when you don’t want to answer a question?

Dear Reader,

When someone asks a question that you might interpret as impolite it conjures up uncomfortable emotions.

Respectfully Yours: Cancelled dinner plans rankles friend

Sunday, January 26, 2020 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I had plans to have dinner with a friend last Saturday night. The person called and said to change the reservation for a later time. Not too long after, there was another call to cancel the dinner. What happened to keeping commitments and not letting people down?

Dear Reader,

There is something to be said about the importance of keeping your word.

When social commitments are made and not followed through, feelings can get hurt. Unfortunately, there will always be people who, for some reason or another, make promises and then change direction.

Respectfully Yours: Don’t look a gift certificate in the mouth

Friday, January 17, 2020 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

My husband and I received a gift certificate to an expensive restaurant. The amount covers one meal. Is it rude to give a gift certificate that requires spending money?

Dear Reader,

It’s likely the gift-giver was excited and wanted to give you something extra special without having thought it all the way through.

Perhaps the person was trying to give the best possible gift and felt this particular dining experience would be more meaningful than some other random restaurant.

Respectfully Yours: Don’t be ‘the one that got away’

Friday, January 10, 2020 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

An former boyfriend I dated in high school contacted me online. It was great hearing from him and we spoke on the phone for hours, catching up on the last 30 years. He even put his wife on to say “Hello.” He considers me “the one that got away.” I don’t feel the same way about him. How do I gracefully bow out of these phone calls without insulting him or destroying what initially was a friendly reconnection?

Dear Reader,

Respectfully Yours: Make new year’s resolutions all year

Friday, January 3, 2020 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

I often overhear people discussing what their goals are for the New Year. As it often happens, I will be asked, “What is your New Year’s resolution?” I’m not a big fan of announcing my New Year’s resolutions. How can I politely answer the question?

Dear Reader,

There are two types of resolution makers: people who make their resolutions public and those that keep them private.

If you need social support and want to talk about your goals, go right ahead.

But deciding to remain private about your goals is fine, too.

Respectfully Yours: Ways to avoid unwanted nickname

Wednesday, December 25, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

How can I politely get people to stop using a nickname? My name is Joseph and a very small number of people call me Joe, which I don’t regard as my name. It really bothers me when I am introduced to people as Joe because then others think my name is Joe. What is the politest way to request that someone use my actual name?

Dear Reader,

A lot of people have problems with unwanted nicknames.

Respectfully Yours: Send thank-you card for holiday gift

Friday, December 20, 2019 by JACQUELYN YOUST in Focus

Dear Jacquelyn,

During the holidays, I receive a number of gifts and I am wondering if I should be writing thank-you notes. I have never done this in the past. What are your thoughts regarding whether one should send a thank-you note for every Christmas gift received?

Dear Reader,

There is no better time to show your appreciation than around the holidays. It is a polite gesture, but it is not necessary to send a thank-you note to everyone who took the time to give you a Christmas gift.